Romance writer Chloe Thurlow

Literary romance

Blowjobs Golden Rule – Swallow Don’t Spit

Blowjobs are empowering. When you are down on your knees with a warm cock in your mouth, you have the power over pleasure and pain. Great blowjobs are life-affirming, uniquely human, a biblical investment: the more you give the more you get.

When more than 1000 girls answered the Ask Reddit survey: What do you think about when you are giving blowjobs? I was saddened to learn that the majority admitted pondering nothing but the mundane: I wonder if he likes it; my jaw aches; how long before its over?

The secret of giving unforgettable blowjobs is to let go, empty your mind of all thoughts, be in the moment. Fellatio should be a meditation, an opportunity to bring your man to a joyful release that fills your mouth and covers your face with its creamy warmth.

The blowjobs golden rule is swallow, don’t spit. Semen is his essence, his pride, the spirit of life. How discourteous, how banal to cough up the elixir and wretch it out. Kiss him and share the fruits of your labour.

Blowjobs are intensely intimate, for those girls who acquire the pistachio and Greek salad taste, seminal fluid is a wonderdrug containing protein; cortisol, which combats stress and increases affection; oxytocin, which gives you a mild high; the antidepressant serotonin; and melatonin, a sleep aid – and what greater pleasure than to snuggle beneath the bedsheets with the sticky stuff drying in a face masque. Is it good for the skin? I know women who swear by it.

Blowjobs & Penis Envy

Freud’s theory that girls suffer penis envy is largely refuted, although, anatomically, where the female has a space to be filled, we can’t help but wonder what it must be like to have that curled-up sleepy extension that grows hard, bobs about as if with a will of its own and throbs in your palm as the blood pulses through his veins.

Boys love their cocks. They love playing with them. After years of youthful practise, they have a knack of getting themselves off with astonishing ease. Many blowjobs end with him taking over while you wait passively for his load.

The challenge is to bring blowjobs to orgasm by tonguing technique interspersed with massaging the shaft and sucking his balls. Wet the shaft with bold slippery licks, take it down to your tonsils and up again, slowly at first, building in tempo.

Manoeuvre yourself into a position where you can look into his eyes. His deepest desire is to see his entire manhood buried in your throat. Hold his gaze. You grip with your lips and mouth, creating an air-tight seal that adds suction to the sucking motion. And you know what happens when a force is kept under pressure – it builds and builds until it explodes.

Those girls complaining in the Reddit Survey about having an aching jaw simply need to learn to vary the action. After he has seen his cock vanish in your mouth, spend time flicking your tongue tip into little groove – called the meatus – and sucking the soft pink head – the glans – like it’s a lollypop. Like the clitoris, this area of the penis contains clusters of nerve endings that send pleasure messages to the brain.

A word of caution: the glans is softer the silk, the shaft as delicate as tissue. BJs belong to lips, tongues and throats. Keep your teeth to yourself. Some men like to have a finger pushed into their butt for added stimulation. Try it and see. Make sure your fingernails aren’t jagged and use lube.

Memorable blowjobs are a marathon, not a sprint. After fairy licking the glans, aim your tongue tip in delicate stabs around the frenulum (or frenum), the membrane on the underside of the penis that connects the head to the shaft. This area, sometimes called the male g-spot, is a bundle of hypersensitive nerve accelerators.

As the pleasure grows, he snatches for breath. When he closes his eyes, ease the soft outer flesh of the shaft up and down, faster, faster, your hand beating regular as a metronome, cup the head with your lips and mouth and keep pumping until the magical moment of climax. Now swallow. Don’t spit.

Men believe they are getting the most out of blowjobs; that it obeys the natural order. Let them think it. Discover the true joy of giving great head, and remember that investment: the more you give the more you get when it’s his turn to go down on his knees.

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16 Discussions on
“Blowjobs Golden Rule – Swallow Don’t Spit”
  • “for those girls who acquire the pistachio and Greek salad taste”

    Oh god, you’ve become delusional! I love you but, ick. How do you do it? Well, I guess I should be glad someone has a positive attitude and is willing to take care of the boys. Good luck with that. If you’re ever in the mood for some honey, I can make you feel truly empowered :)

    Xoxoxo
    Ingrid

  • I find this a great read I enjoyed it.
    I love giving pleasure to my man.
    love it when he lays back and lets me
    take control. I can see how I give him pleasure, it turns me on to see him so turned on. and yes I swallow and not spit. I enjoy giving a blowjob, I think if you don’t then you just want to get it over with.
    thanks Carrie Smith

  • Over the years I became quite skilled with the blowjob and am not at all timid about it. What truly set me free to completely enjoy it without the mentioned complaints was finding positions I could last in for an extended time without muscle fatigue and pain.

    Years ago I bought a new desk chair, a soft armchair with swiveling and wheeled movement capabilities (although not used for more than minor comfort adjustments), this chair happened to be the very perfect height for my partner to sit in and for me to kneel before him with my head directly aligned in front of his cock with a straight back and neck. I automatically found myself in a seated kneeling upright yoga position with my sitting bones square on the ground and all the weight of my back and neck supported through my hips as if I was integrated with the earth. After decades of yoga study my entire body auto-aligned into the proper method for this yoga pose which happened to be the best way to give a blowjob I’ve yet to come across for both myself and my partners. Without having to worry about muscle support I’m able to freely pass into the meditative state you mentioned and time can fly by.

    Another position that works for me is lying on my back with my head at the bottom corner of the bed while my partner straddles over my face. This too allows for muscle relaxation in my back and my neck with my partner doing most of the motion work while I’m focused entirely on the oral components.

    It can go without saying that I know how to nurture the balls… When it comes to ass play, depending on my partners level of experience my techniques differ. With a newbie I strongly recommend the use of a lubed condom, it prevents any fingernail concerns and is smoother for them going in and out. Also, I believe there’s a psychological comfort in this for some new to the experience. It seems to make them feel less “dirty” having their first time ass juices on a condom and not their partners fingers. Of course everyone’s different, these are just a few observations.

    I shared the link to this article with a few male friends and they have a question for you… Are you going to write an article about pineapple and ginger? :)

    Oh, and BTW, the nerve fibers of the glans of the penis are of the exact same nature, the exact same cellular structure as the nerve tissues that make up the clitoris. You may already know this but I didn’t see it mentioned and I think this is an insightful tidbit of knowledge about male and female sexual similarities. Our orgasms are utterly different internally due to different biological processes involved but the stimulation of those shared nerve fibers, since they’re made of the very same cells are likely to be quite similar for us. After learning this I had to put it to test, doing to my male partner what I enjoy having done to myself, seems to work out well…

    –Stardust

      • Chloe,

        I’d pay good money to watch you try to bake a full-on cake!! I might even taste it too.

        I’m quite certain about the effectiveness of pineapple and ginger in making the taste of semen all around better. Seems to strikes out any bitterness that’s sometimes present. There are a few things I’m unsure of now but was asked about although I’m not really up for researching these things at this time. I’m working on an important project for a friend that’s a bigger priority… Plus you have an audience and one that wants to know the answers here and this has been a buzz subject for quite a few months in my neck of the woods (also, if you do this article I’ll be forwarding it to a very large population!). The most common question asked was how soon before ejaculation should one ingest these delicacies, something that likely varies. It was also asked if it has to be pineapple, not always easy to come by and someone wanted to know if any highly sweetened fruit with a strong citric acid component (Mmmm… Vitamin C) might do the trick in a pinch. I know I’m forgetting something but if you do choose to go forward with this I’m sure you’ll come across it.

        Thank you for the yoga spanking link, I saw that on here when I didn’t have the time to read it and then forgot all about it. I’m truly appreciative.

        Since writing about the seated yoga position for giving oral I’ve realized a few things that didn’t cross my mind yesterday… I studied a physically arduous discipline of yoga, emphasizing perfection of pose prior to genuine meditation, believing the latter not possible without the former, something I agree with today. The poses were super hard work actually teaching your brain to communicate to parts of your body it didn’t have nervous system connections to. Or things more simple like never leaning into a forward bend with an arched back, when your back arches sit-up a bit and only hold the pose while straight or all you’ll ever learn is laziness.

        As a Level 3 student of 4 levels my meditation practices furthered and thirty minutes to an hour in a seated upright kneeling position with my sitting bones on the ground, spread wide for support, pelvic bone tucked inwards, hipbones tilted forwards and lifted upwards, my feet at my side with a perfectly aligned back, neck and chin all became first-nature after so much practice. Plus the teachers weren’t lenient; they’d come right up behind you, grab and spread your sitting bones (that’s your ass cheeks but closer to your ass hole), push your pelvic bone inwards and down, adjust your hips and back and anything else you might be screwing up, the drill sergeants of yoga! (BTW, that pelvic bone hip bone combo is extremely difficult to hold and took years of practice…)

        The rewiring I began over 20 years ago is now permanent which is why I believe my whole body auto-aligned into this position when first giving that chair a spin. What all of this thinking led me to was that in this position my body and mind are rewired meditatively after years of practice now, when my body is in this seated position it calms me down, a perfect mindset for giving a long-lasting explorative and sensory blowjob. I first had to teach the mind to lead the body, now my body leads my mind.

        Chloe, girl, you get me thinking too much!!

        -Stardust

  • Lovely sensitive and very accurate email….a couple of things…please, good females…do not ignore the perineum. For me, (in case we ever meet!) it is a very sensitive area, and loves attention…gentle stroking, and maybe the odd scratch! But please, always swallow! To spit makes me feel insecure and unwanted…honestly!….now tell me I lack something and am needy! Chloe, brilliant as always…x

    • Joseph, I’d like to add, good males & females, please do not ignore the perineum! ;)

      I mentioned in my (lengthy) comment about the nerve fibers of the clitoris and the glans of the penis being of the very same cellular structure… This is also true of the nerves of the perineum, anus and opening to the anal cavity; we are quite the same when it comes to stimulation of these areas.

      Where we differ is deeper inside, the prostate for men is located in the anal cavity and new research is showing that women have two prostate-like glands, visible in some cases, microscopic in many cases and non-existent in others. For a good portion of women they’re located on the inner labia below the vagina on either side of the urethra but rarely consistent from woman to woman in location and in size. Formerly called the Skene’s Glands, named after its discoverer they’ve now been nicknamed the “female prostate” because of their release of numerous prostate hormones and antigens through the still mysterious process of female “ejaculation.” The following wikipedia link doesn’t always work but there’s a good description along with an illustrated photograph for demonstration purposes, if necessary you can search on your own, and of course searching by images will show more variety as it pertains to the Skene’s Gland location and size. Fewer than 1% of US women even now they have this gland…

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Skene%27s_gland
      Or try WiseGeek, a better source than wikipedia on these matters…
      http://www.wisegeek.org/what-is-skenes-gland.htm

      Well, that was an unexpected but I hope interesting divergence…

      -Stardust

  • Well , from a male point of view YES YES your dead right BLOW JOBS are really fantastic the feeling is really earth shattering o m g ,Looking down and seeing your lover at work is terrific THANKS FOR POSTING love your posts

  • LOL! You crack me up Ingrid. I love how you are. :)
    Good article, Chloe, but the whole spooge and swallowing thing is gross. I’ve always told the guy I was going down on, not to blow his load in my mouth. If he did, I’d throw up, and then punch him.
    BTW, where do you get your pictures for your posts? They’re great.
    ((Hugs)) to you.

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